Bad Exam Results? Don’t Worry!

It’s GCSE results day here in the UK.  All over the country there are young adults queueing up for the dreaded envelope that tells them how they’ve done in their exams.

Ask anybody and they’ll tell you how scary it is, first of all waiting for the results, then opening them.  There’s a sense of your future literally being in your hands; your future in that envelope.  Will you have got the grades needed to take your education further or to get your dream job?  Will you have got grades that will make your family beam with pride?  Or, have you somehow scored low grades?

For those of you that have done well, huge congratulations!  But, this blog post is for those in the latter case.  Those of you that haven’t done as well as you hoped you could, or perhaps as well as you should have done.  There’s many reasons you may not have got the grades you wanted – maybe you didn’t listen in class, maybe you didn’t do your homework, maybe you didn’t revise, maybe you were just too busy having fun to worry about your academic life, or maybe it just didn’t work out for you the way you hoped.
For those of you in that situation, I say this:
First and foremost, don’t beat yourself up about it.  What’s done is done.
Secondly, don’t panic.  Just because you haven’t got brilliant grades, it’s not the end of the world.
I’m sure you’re now reading this thinking, “Not the end of the world?!  How the hell do you know?!”  But, I do know.  And do you want to know the reason why I’m so certain it isn’t the end of the world?  Well… I don’t have any GCSE’s.  Not one.  Nothing.  Nada.  Zilch.
I dropped out of school aged 13 as I was being badly bullied.  Instead of transferring to another school, due to the depressed state I was in, I stayed at home and my parent’s taught me as best they could.
Unfortunately, it’s nigh-on impossible to take exams if you’re home-schooled.  Mum and Dad approached lots of different schools in the local area but none of them would allow me to sit my exams in their hall.  So, I had no choice, I couldn’t take my GCSE’s.
To cut a long story short, with no qualifications I didn’t think my life looked that rosy.  I thought people would assume I was stupid or that I was a waster as I had nothing to list on my CV.  So, I decided to do something about it.  I organised work experience for myself in different places – a week here, a week there – all voluntary.  It’s very rarely that you’ll find a company that will refuse free labour, and the time you spend there will look great on your CV.  Plus it shows initiative because you’ve organised it yourself.
I decided I wanted to go to college, but due to my lack of qualifications they wouldn’t take me.  So I phoned them.  And phoned them.  And phoned them.  And phoned them.  In the end, they were so sick of hearing from me that they called me in for an interview just to shut me up.  I went in there with a portfolio showing all the different things I’d been doing while I wasn’t at school – websites I’d made, poems I’d written, articles I’d had published in newspapers and magazines, plus letters of recommendation that I’d asked my work experience companies to give me.  That was enough to show them how serious I was and they allowed me to join the course.
Next I enrolled in an Evening Class to learn English Language and Literature.  Once a week I’d go to a local school in the evening and take these classes.  I’ll be honest, I hated every single second of it, but that was purely because everyone else there was 40+ and I was 16.  I was a total outsider.  But, I stuck it out, took the exams and obtained my qualification.
At the same time as doing all of this, I also had part-time jobs.  Don’t get me wrong, I was absolutely knackered.  I mean – KNACKERED.  But, it showed I was willing to work hard.
Now, I’m 27 and I hold a high-pressure, senior-level, responsible job (in fact, I’m the boss).  I’m so, so proud of everything I’ve achieved and I know I got where I am today through sheer hard work and determination.
Don’t get me wrong, there were times when I went out with friends, partied, got drunk etc., but the next day I’d pull myself together, get my head down and work hard.
If I can achieve what I have and get myself to the position I’m in now, you can too.  Bad exams results are horrible, I know, but don’t for a second think it’s the end of the world.  You can be whatever you want to be.  Exam results don’t define you, they don’t make you the person you are – YOU make you the person you are.
Take it from me, you’ll be fine, I promise.
Now go get ‘em, Tiger!
LilliesandLove xx


Did Prince Harry Get Naked? What’s It Got To Do With Us?

If you’ve seen/heard today’s news reports then no doubt you’ve seen the story that allegedly shows Prince Harry in the buff after playing a game of Strip Billiards whilst in Las Vegas.
Initially, I (like everybody else I’m sure) thought “Ooh!  Prince Harry naked?  Let’s see this!” because, let’s be honest, he’s a Royal hottie.  But almost as soon as I’d thought this I felt a pang of what can only be described as sadness and disappointment mixed together.
When did it become acceptable for people to exploit others like this?
Go back not too many years in history and this would have been considered treason and the perpetrator would have felt the full force of the law.  I know it’s 2012 and things have changed, the Royal Family are more modern and accessible to the public, but, let’s forget who it (allegedly) is in these photos for a second – is it really ok to abuse someone’s trust like this?
Obviously, I don’t know Prince Harry, but I would assume he has grown up being warned about people wanting to harm him either physically or reputationally.  Granted, if these photographs are of him (and they may not be, we all know how easy it is to spoof images) then I would imagine he may have had a couple of drinks and it may have affected his judgement, however, he let his guard down enough in front of these people to act in this way and they’ve taken the opportunity to make a quick buck by selling photographs to the media?
I just find it all so… moral-less.
There are so many kiss-and-tell stories these days – there seems to be a new one every week – and, to some extent, when the celebrity involved has been cheating on a partner, I almost feel that it’s karma come back to bite them on the bum.  But, if somebody wants to expose infidelity, why not go direct to that person’s wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend?  Why go to the newspapers, sell the story/pictures and let the whole world see it?  It’s not just the philanderer hurt here, it’s their partner, their family… innocent people that don’t deserve to have their dirty laundry blasted across the world wide web.
A good friend of mine went on a date with a well-known celebrity.  The celebrity in question is a household name and a face that the vast majority of UK residents would recognise.  On their date, the celebrity scared my friend witless – he was not at all the person she thought he would be, and the events of the night left a lasting imprint on her mind.  She was in tears about the things he’d said/done and she hadn’t even gone anywhere private with him, he acted the way he did in public, in a very high profile restaurant.
Now, my friend could seriously do with a cash injection into her life, it would help her out massively – she could have gone to the newspapers and destroyed this man’s reputation, but she didn’t.  She took what happened on the chin and kept her counsel.  She has morals and decency.
But I guess those are the words that are key here – Morals and decency, loyalty and honour, manners and a sense of right and wrong.
I don’t know if the photographs are of Prince Harry or not, and to be honest, I don’t really care.  If he decided to get drunk in Vegas then that’s his choice.  If he decided to play Strip Billiards with his friends and some girls, then that’s his prerogative.  I don’t really see what it’s got to do with anyone else.
LilliesandLove xx

Video: 25 Random Questions (with Rachael)

My best friend, Rachael, and I decided we would like to record a video together for my YouTube channel but couldn’t work out what to talk about, so took the easy option by doing a Tag video – hurrah!

We looked at a few different options but decided that 25 Random Questions seemed a good place to start!


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LilliesandLove xx


Video: Yorkshire Terrier with a Guilty Conscience

I just had to share this video with you all!

Upon discovering a ‘little accident’ in the kitchen last night, it didn’t take me long to work out which of the dogs was responsible – Ozzie is terrible at hiding his guilty conscience!

LilliesandLove xx


Bullies – Nature or Nurture?

Today is one of those days where I just want to scream.  I’m sure we all get them.  (Actually, boys, do you get ‘screamy’ days?)

I’m not one of life’s criers.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ll cry at films, TV programmes, stories in newspapers, even adverts, but I don’t seem to cry about real life stuff very much.  However, today, several times, my eyes have filled with tears and I’ve had to stop them from falling.
I consider myself to be quite a ‘tough cookie’.  I’ve always held my own and maintained a calm persona even if underneath I’ve been fuming with anger or tearful through sadness.  But today, I just feel like walking out.
I’m 27.  That’s the age of a grown-up.  I move around in an adult world.  Yet somehow, in this grown-up world, there are still people who are simply nasty through-and-through.  They’re hell bent on being ‘top dog’ and focussed on making others miserable.  Most of the time I can take it on the chin and I watch as others fight against their domineering ways.
In my opinion, there’s no excuse for rudeness, no excuse for bullying, and definitely no excuse for being a total and utter douchebag.

But it leads me to wonder…  Are people born bullies or does life carve them out to be that way?

LilliesandLove xx

PS  Sorry for being moany, but as I said at the beginning of the post – it’s been one of those ‘screamy’ days!


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