I’m Back!

Hi everyone!

I’m back from my holidays after an amazing week in the (very) hot sunshine with my lovely boyfriend; the entire time spent being incredibly lazy with blue skies and cocktails!  Perfect!

As much as it’s nice to be home, coming back to an autumnal England is a bit of a shock to the system!

I’ll be writing a post about my holiday in the coming days, but wanted to quickly say a MASSIVE “Thank you” to each and every one of my Guest Bloggers who kept my little blog ticking over while I was away – I loved reading your pieces and I know lots of other people did too!

Now, I’m off to have a cup of tea and some throat sweets as I appear to be developing a little post-sunshine cold!  (sad face)

LilliesandLove xx


(Guest Post) Scary Hair(y)

I’m off on my jolly holidays (yippeeeeee!), so this week my
blog is hosting some guest posts – enjoy!
LilliesandLove xx
Today’s guest blogger is… my Mum!
As the final Guest Post of the week, I thought it would be nice if my Mum wrote something.  She doesn’t have her own blog, but she reads mine, so I thought it would be nice for her to have some input.  Enjoy!

Scary Hair(y)

When you’re a mum, you want to do things to please your children, so when Penny asked me if I’d write a Guest Blog I said I would, even though I have no experience of blogs at all, except for reading Penny’s.

I’ve not got a blog of my own – my writings are only long, chatty emails to friends; I’m not eloquent with words and phrases like Penny, my writing is entirely different, so please don’t expect this to be of the same calibre of Penny’s writing or you will be disappointed; my writing is, I feel, more like I’m chatting to the person reading my writing.

So, here goes, with prior apologies to Penny.

When Penny asked me to write a Guest Blog my first thoughts were ‘What about?’  Penny seems to come up with subjects quite easily, but I didn’t inherit that part of her genes, it’s caused me some pondering.  I didn’t want to write anything controversial or ‘beat a drum’ about anything, nor did I want to get too personal on my first – and maybe my last – blog for Penny.

Penny hadn’t given me much time to think of what to write, so after falling asleep trying to think what to write about, I took my pad and pen with me when I went for a hair cut and sitting in the chair it came to me – my topic would be my dread of hairdressers.

I’m a laughing joke with my children because of my total disasters with hairdressers.  I’ve tried so many over the years, I think I went to every salon in the town we used to live in.  I’ve also had hairdressers who come to call, all with the same result – disaster!!  I’m just thankful my hair grows quickly!!

As far as I can ascertain people go to the hairdressers, have a cut and blow-dry and come out smiling.  Then there’s me!

I’ve downloaded pictures off the internet of what I want; I’ve drawn pictures; explained in great detail what I want.  Do I get it?  Do I ‘eck!!!

Some years back I paid £98 for a colour, cut and blow-dry.  At the time this was almost my entire spare cash for the month.  When I got home I was asked ‘Did a junior cut your hair, it’s up and down at the back, not at all straight?’!!!  I had to tell them a Senior Stylist had cut it!!

Now I go to a local hairdressers and pay £5 to have a student cut it, on the principle if I’m going to have a disastrous cut, I’d rather pay the least I can for it!!

But – what is it with me and hairdressers?  Why can’t I get a decent cut?  Why don’t hairdressers listen to what I ask for, and make my head a thing of crowning glory?  Why do they listen, say they understand, then do their own thing with my locks?  I go into the hairdressers half-way to a style I’m trying to achieve and come out with layers put in, and I’m back to square one again.  I’m beginning to think they should be paying me!

My hair has been cut whilst I’ve been writing this, it’s now being dried.  Who knows that it will look like when it’s finished.  It’s not as if I’m asking for anything outrageous, all I want is a ‘graduated bob’ as the hairdressers call it, but never seem to be able to achieve it on my head!

So many times I’ve come out of the hairdressers with ‘holes’ behind my ears, where the hair is about an inch or more shorter than the rest for about half an inch wide.  Why?  Each time I mention I don’t want this effect to the hairdressers, they look at me puzzled, as if they have never encountered it before, then they proceed to give it to me!

So this time, I took pictures of my hair with the ‘holes’ behind my ears, and I’ve shown them to them today.  Will it have made a difference?  Who knows!!

Wish me luck!!

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(Guest Post) As I Looked Up At The Heavens

I’m off on my jolly holidays (yippeeeeee!), so this week my
blog is hosting some guest posts – enjoy!
 LilliesandLove xx 
 Today’s guest blogger is Dan.
As he doesn’t have a blog himself, Dan was quite nervous about writing this guest post, but I really enjoyed reading it!  I believe, as well as being a subject close to his heart, it is also one most people have some curiosity about.


As I Looked Up At The Heavens

In recent weeks one of the greatest names of the 20th century died.
Hold that sentence.
Think about it.
I hope that over 75% of people guessed it!
It was Neil Armstrong.
The first man to physically step foot on a celestial body other than the Earth. For humankind this was the culmination of man’s journey through history: from the dawn of civilisation, the first time man looked up and saw our celestial partner, to the moment John F Kennedy announced that “it is [our] aim to put the first man on the Moon by the end of the decade” and to that pinnacle of achievement when Armstrong set foot on the moon.
From that moment space exploration commanded headline news. It enforced the dominance of the USA both economically and technologically. But history looks, with razor sharp precision, on the facts and the “small world”. For me, and I wasn’t born when Armstrong took his momentous step, this seminal moment of the 20thcentury has far wider ramifications for mankind as a civilisation.
Carl Sagan, the popular cosmologist before we had Brian Cox, wrote that “Recently, we have waded a little out to sea, enough to dampen our toes or, at most, wet our ankles. The water seems inviting. The ocean calls.” For me this is profound. We have taken the first steps into space and whilst we’re nowhere near exploring the vastness of the cosmos. The science and technology needed to do this just aren’t developed enough, yet. But we are making strides in trying to overcome these hurdles. We can find other worlds orbiting their own suns, we understand the building blocks of the universe and have found the God particle. We have seen farther into the universe, and back in time, and seen the light emitted from the first stars that were generated when our universe was created over 13 billion years ago.
But in these times of global austerity NASA’s funding represents 0.5% of the federal budget this year at $18 billion dollars. US military spending totals just over $1 trillion dollars. Does anyone else find this to be just wrong? As a species mankind generally spends more money on defending itself and attacking others than it does on schooling its children, feeding itself and, in wider terms, bettering itself for the good of its own combined aspirations. I could go all “Star Trek” here and talk about Gene Roddenberry’s utopian view of humanity unconstrained by politics and finances but instead I’ll a quote that point humanity in the right direction: “Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known”. (Carl Sagan, again)
Whilst mankind fights itself over religion and over ideals its easy to oversee the fact that we’re the only species on the planet capable of wiping itself out. Whilst we fight amongst ourselves for the reward of natural resources we forget that to truly better ourselves we have to look to science and realise that it is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.
Humankind has the capability to do great things. We can explore our own backyard (our solar system), our own neighbourhood (our corner of the galaxy) in space and one day we may push beyond the relative safety of our own part of the galaxy and push on towards other galaxies. Only then, when we have cut the constraints that prevent mankind from progressing technologically and economically, might we realise that we are not alone in the galaxy.
It was with these thoughts that I sat, down in the dumps, on Saturday night in my back garden looking up at the stars. I hadn’t covered 3/4s of the sky and I lost count at around 1100 stars. I saw satellites traversing the sky. I saw 4 “shooting stars”. I saw the International Space Station. I was only looking for an hour. Without my telescope. I felt like Neil Armstrong for a moment.
As Neil Armstong, later in life, said: ”It suddenly struck me that that tiny pea, pretty and blue, was the Earth. I put up my thumb and shut one eye, and my thumb blotted out the planet Earth. I didn’t feel like a giant. I felt very, very small”. As I looked up into the heaven’s I suddenly felt grounded, and very small. I understood my place in the universe. And I smiled.

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A Letter To My 16-Year Old Self

I’ve seen several other bloggers do this tag post and have really enjoyed reading each and every one of them.

When I look at the 11-years that have passed since I was 16-years old, so much has happened and the person I am now is unrecognisable from the person I was then.

Reading the posts of other bloggers, I realised that if I had the opportunity to go back and meet 16-year old Me, I would have so much to say, so I thought I’d write a post for this tag:

Dear Me,

I know you’re going through a hard time right now and you feel completely out of your depth.  I also know that no matter what I say to you, you will ignore it, just as you ignore everybody else around you that is looking out for you at the moment, but, there are things I need to tell you and things you need to know:

Don’t try being someone else just to fit in; be yourself.  I know you don’t feel that being you is good enough, but, believe me, when you stop trying to be what you think everybody else wants you to be, you will find the world a better place; you’ll be truly happy and the people around you will love you for being different.

Spend more time at college and less time in the pub!  I know it’s a cliche but your schooldays really are the best days of your life; enjoy every second of it – and don’t leave your coursework until the last minute!

Stick up for yourself.  Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t let anyone (including boys/men) treat you like you’re worthless.  You deserve respect and kindness as much as the next person.  Demand it.

Oh, and while we’re on the subject of boys/men?  They will tell you they love you; they don’t.  Don’t invest so much of yourself in them and certainly don’t conform to what they tell you.  But, most of all, don’t blame yourself when things don’t work out.

NEVER let any boy/man lay a finger on you.  At the first sign of violence, get yourself out of that relationship and out of their life.  Don’t make excuses for them, don’t be scared and don’t doubt yourself; just get yourself as far away from them as possible.  You haven’t done anything wrong, it’s them that has the problem.

Don’t worry about not knowing what career path you want to follow.  I’m 27 and still have no idea what I want to do.  Just go with the flow and enjoy the journey.

Wear crop tops; you have a flat stomach.  11-years down the line you’ll be wishing you had that toned midrif again!

Don’t get credit cards.  Don’t run up debts buying things just to keep up with your friends.  You’ll end up in debt and those friends are just people-I-used-to-know now; they aren’t worth it.

When you go to the hairdressers for your re-perm and you think he’s using the wrong type of rollers, TELL HIM.  Don’t keep your mouth shut for the sake of being polite.  You’ll end up looking like an 80’s throwback poodle, you’ll have to chop your beautiful long hair off into a very short bob and it’ll take years to grow back.

Don’t rush into buying a house.  I know you want to be a grown-up and you want to be a homeowner, but if you’re relationship isn’t stable, it’s not going to work out.  Wait until the time is right.

In a few years, you’re going to see a car and fall head over heels in love with it.  Have it thoroughly checked before you buy it; it will save you a lot of money.

Be nicer to your parents.  I know you don’t want to hear this, but they really are always right.  Trust their judgement, respect their wishes and don’t lie to them.  If they don’t want you to do something, there’s a reason for that.  If they don’t like one of your friends, there’s a reason for that too.  They don’t say these things just for the sake of it.  Trust them and trust their judgement.

Most of all, I want you to beat your self-esteem issues; I want you to love yourself like your friends and family do.

Oh, and as for never getting married and having children?  Be careful what you wish for.  You will fall in love one day and, believe it or not, one day you’re going to want children to be a part of your future.

Embrace life and make plans.  Make time to relax, laugh until your stomach hurts and dance until you think your feet will catch fire.  Life is hilarious and ridiculous, don’t take it too seriously.


What would you write to your 16-year old self?  I’d love to know in the comments box below, or if you decide to do this tag post on your blog, please leave the link below and I’ll check it out!

LilliesandLove xx

Note:  First image comes courtesy of Google.

(Guest Post) It’s Complicated… Omnia Vincit Amor

I’m off on my jolly holidays (yippeeeeee!), so this week my
blog is hosting some guest posts – enjoy!
 LilliesandLove xx 
 Today’s guest blogger is Lynn.
Lynn doesn’t have a blog herself, although having read this piece, I definitely think she should start one as she has a real talent for writing!


It’s Complicated… Omnia Vincit Amor

“It is too rash, too unadvised, too sudden”
Romeo and Juliet, 2. 2
When you least expect it someone can enter into your life with the effect of a cyclone, it has the same emotional effect on your mind and body as it does on the earth, devastating but relieving the drought, in this case the drought being lack of that true feeling of connection. People come and go in your life on a daily basis, and then there are the few who are supposed to be there, in one form or another, forever. Tropical cyclones help to maintain the earths equilibrium by maintaining a relatively stable and warm temperature worldwide , likened in my mind to that easy feeling you have when you are with someone who is simply ‘just right’, achieving that comfortable and necessary balance …. although this is a rare and beautiful thing, it can be considered to be the lull ‘after’ the storm.
On occasion these people are ones that you may have overlooked, due to circumstance, or initial fear of them not being what you think you are looking for. Then they can leave you just one short simple message be it by text or social networking, and ‘BAM’ you are hooked, something inside is screaming at you to follow this through… no matter what appears to be standing in your way, fear is no longer an option.
Why is it certain people have the ability to make us tick, very loudly ?… the feeling becoming overwhelming in a matter of hours, the need and lust for more contact with immediate effect, the desperation to know more, to know everything, to share. Getting so caught up, that anything else that enters the time you have ‘together’ feels like a rude and harsh form of punctuation… a full stop in the middle of a perfectly formed sentence.
It overcomes tiredness and pain, it overtakes the ability to think normally, it changes your heartbeat to one that you no longer recognise, but one that you adore the feeling of, in that odd adrenaline fuelled way. Your senses are heightened, you become so aware of touch and smell, everything you are doing at that moment feels different. You feel you could take on the world because you have someone to experience it with, is this how superpowers are harnessed ? Does love conquer all ?

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