First thing’s first… Happy New Year! 2019 has arrived and if you’re feeling anything like me, you’re looking forward to eating vegetables and drinking anything that has zero alcohol content again! It’s been a fun week or so but I am seriously ready to detox.
As cliche as it is, I like to take this time of year to reflect (as I did in yesterday’s post) and to look forward to the year ahead and what I would like to achieve. I stopped setting new year’s resolution a few years ago as I literally never kept to them, but instead I think about small, more realistic, manageable goals that I can add in to my everyday life and that I hope will benefit me. I did this last year and I have to say, I pretty much smashed it and all those little changes I made really did improve my quality of life.
So, with that success under my belt, I thought I’d do the same this year!
I read every day on my commute to and from work, but I want it to be more than just a way to pass time on the train; I want it to be a stolen few moments of pleasure, snug on the sofa with a cup of tea as I lose myself in a good book. It’s a great way to relax and still the mind and I can’t help that even half an hour here and there will do me the world of good – plus, the more you read the healthier your brain is and that’s something I can definitely get on board with!
Get Off My Phone
This follows on from the above really – I dread to think how much of my time I lose to scrolling mindlessly on social media. In recent weeks I’ve already started using my phone less – I don’t have any notifications on it for anything other than WhatsApp and text messages, and in the evening I put it on the coffee table and barely look at it. The human race was never intended to be bombarded with so much information on such a constant basis and, as wonderful as having access to the entire world in the palm of your hand is, it’s also not good for us mentally. I’ve definitely noticed a positive change from being less active on my phone and I hope to continue that for the year ahead.
Streamline Our Finances
This is the biggest goal for me (us) this year – I want to really focus on our finances and getting ourselves financially stable and able to save for the things we want in our future (ie a house and a wedding). I’ve already got a spreadsheet I use to monitor our expenditure but I want to drill down even more and work out where we can cut back and how we can get ourselves in a best possible position to begin building our future. This means there will be less weekends away and nights out (I’m basically turning down every single invitation I get at the moment!), we’ll make our own lunch to take to work rather than buying the extortionately priced offerings in London each day, and we’ll budget for things like Christmas and birthday presents over the entirety of the year rather than waiting for them to arrive and then having to find the money from somewhere. I’m actually pretty excited about this to be honest – it’s going to be a year of less adventures, yes, but it’s building for our years ahead and that’s the biggest adventure of all.
Get Outside More
This one is a little bit situation dependent – I will only be able to go on the walks through the countryside that I want to do if I get the surgery to fix my leg. At the moment it’s not possible, but I’m hoping to have surgery in the first half of the year and hopefully by the final quarter of 2019 I’ll be reaping the rewards of the physio I’ll need and be able to get outside and breathe in lungfuls of fresh air! Cross your fingers for me that it happens sooner rather than later please!
Stop Trying To Improve Myself
Physically I mean. Those quick fixes to try and make myself look “better” – fake nails, false eyelashes, hair extensions etc. Because what it all boils down to when I add these things to my appearance is that I’m telling myself that I’m not good enough as I am and I need these things to make myself more acceptable. And, it’s true – false nails are nicer than my real nails, and extensions make me feel more glam than my own humidity-sensitive hair, but I don’t want to keep telling myself that the real me isn’t good enough. So, I’ve removed my hair extensions and I don’t want to get them again, I’ll be leaving the false nails in the past, and I’ll find a decent mascara rather than gluing false ones on. I’m not judging anyone else who utilises these things, I have no problem with it all as a concept, but for me personally I’m trying hard to love myself as I am and as the one constant voice I have, I don’t want to keep telling myself that I’m not good enough.
Keep Improving Myself
Morally, emotionally, socially, mentally. In 2018 I found myself actively looking to educate myself on social and environmental issues, learning what I believe in and want to fight the good fight for, and taking myself into account for ways in which I haven’t performed to the best of my ability as a person in the past. I want to continue that in 2019 – I want to continue questioning myself and the world around me, and to continue growing in my understanding of it all.
Look After Myself
Over the past year, with the deterioration of my leg, I’ve noticed how much harder I’m finding everything. I’ve put on weight which doesn’t help, but my fitness is zero now and I can feel in myself that my body is suffering – I don’t feel healthy. So this year, although I won’t be able to be active for many months to come, I want to look after my body as best I can – good food, taking supplements, drinking more water, better skincare; all those little cliches that will help to take care of my body. I’m also going to do more to keep my brain as healthy as possible. I’m quite an anxious person by nature and although my mind is much healthier than it was a year ago, I still find myself with a racing heart and a worried mind on too many occasions. This year I’m going to let myself put myself first – I’m going to step back from those things, situations or people that do me more harm than good, I’m going to stand up for the things I believe in, and I’m not going to let anyone walk all over me as I have a habit of doing for a quiet life. If it doesn’t serve me, it’s not coming with me into 2019.
And there we have it, just a few small, easy to implement changes that I hope will have me feeling even more fulfilled by the end of the next 12 months. I want to be mindful and thankful for what I have whilst simultaneously always acting to improve going forward. We are all a work in progress and I believe we should continue shaping ourselves every day for our entire lives – we should never stop trying to learn and grow.
2018 was a great year of adventure, healing and happiness, but I hope that 2019 will be the year that Ben and I set the foundations for our future. I’ll get my leg fixed, we’ll get our finances in order, and we will become happier, healthier versions of the already happy and healthy (ish) people we are. (I probably need to stop eating white magnums though, let’s be honest).
I hope to be blogging more in 2019 and with the addition of my monthly newsletter full of (what I hope will be) cracking additional chatty content, I hope you’ll stick with me. First and foremost this blog is a hobby and the fact anyone takes the time to read it really does fill me with joy. So thank you – thank you for being here and thank you for sticking by me as 2019 unfolds. Every single day is an adventure and I am always grateful for the life I have.
2019, I am ready for you – let’s get this thing started!