As I mentioned in a previous blog post, the past couple of months I’ve been struggling a little. I’ve felt down in the dumps and really stressed – it’s a rut I’ve found myself in and seemingly unable to get out of. I’ve been miserable, fed up and wanted to hide myself away from the world – a couple of mornings I found myself verging on a feeling of panic at the thought of having to step outside the front door; I think that’s when I realised I had to do something.
If you asked me why I’m feeling like this I would find it difficult to answer. I have a good life – I have a boyfriend who is also my best friend, I have pets I love with every fibre of my being, I have a brilliant family, and am surrounded by the best friends anyone could ever ask for. But, like anything, there are other things that weigh heavy on my mind – I won’t list them here because it will sound like a sob story, but I am fully aware that in the grand scheme of things, the issues that get me down are minor. There are people in the world with no food, no shelter, or living in a war zone; I really have nothing to be unhappy about.
So, in an effort to stop myself feeling so blue, I decided to take myself by the scruff of the neck and drag myself out of this rut, and in order to do this I’ve given myself a new set of rules to live by and tasks to undertake in order to bring positivity into my world – positivity breeds positivity as they say!
Since the doctors had to adjust my daily medication I’ve put on a lot of weight and I can’t stand the way I look now. I was always a neat and tidy size 6-8, but in less than a year I’ve gone up 2 dress sizes and none of my old clothes fit me. I know the chance of me being a 6-8 again is unlikely, but I think that if I start doing exercise, I should tone up a little if not shrink in size, and that will help me feel a bit better about myself. Plus the endorphins released with exercise are known for their happiness-inducing qualities, so working up a sweat should give me a little buzz.
Due to being in my rut, I’ve not wanted to do anything, so I’ve literally been waking up, going to work, coming home, cooking dinner and going to bed. I had nothing to show for my time and without a sense of achievement my life began to feel a little empty. So, I’ve signed up for an online Forensic Psychology course which will make me use my brain more and teach me new skills, plus I’m fascinated by true crime, so it’ll be something I can really get my teeth in to. I also, as you can tell, decided to do Blogtober. It may only be a blogging challenge, but by getting a post online every day of the month I’m giving myself a target and when I achieve it I know I’ll feel really chuffed.
This one is pretty important. Whilst no man is an island (as they say) practicing self care is crucial in maintaining a balance of happiness. It’s so easy to go through life always thinking of other people, but sometimes we need to put ourselves first in order to get our grounding again. By taking on my online course, blogging, or even taking half an hour for a soak in the bath with a bath bomb, it’s that opportunity to do something just for me that I think will make a big difference.
I’m aware that it is slightly ironic to write this on an online blog, but I’m trying to take more time offline. Our generation are pretty much online 24/7 and, as much as I love the online world, the real world has so much to offer and I need to make sure I’m fully present in that too.
One of my favourite things in the world is a kitchen disco. Whenever I’m doing housework I turn the tunes up loud and dance around the house as I do it. As well as being great exercise, it creates such a happy feeling, I’m definitely turning to music more and more for giving me that little shunt of cheeriness when I note myself feeling a little flat.
Good Food and Vitamins
In all honesty, Ben and I have a pretty healthy diet – I cook from scratch every night – but I’m trying to get more fruit and veg into my daily diet, especially at work when it’s so easy to grab something unhealthy to keep my hunger at bay. I’m also taking vitamins to give my body that little extra boost.
In 2015 Ben and I had nothing but adventures, whereas 2016 has been a little quieter – I guess because we live together. However, we are going to start having more adventures; getting up on a Sunday morning and going for a drive somewhere to explore a new town or village, visiting a stately home, or any number of things that get us out of the house and seeing what the world has to offer.
All of these things are pretty simple – none of it is rocket science – but in this modern, fast-paced world it’s so easy to lose sight of yourself and those things around you that are important. Take time for yourself, to do what you love with the people you love and I honestly believe that your life will be enriched.
I’ve been practicing this way of living for about 2 weeks now and I can honestly say I already feel a lot better than I did. I feel like I’m filling my life with good things and happiness rather than just existing from day to day, and living life really is the most important thing.
What tips do you have for filling your life with postivity?
Read my other Blogtober posts here and be sure to pop back tomorrow for Blogtober #6: 5 Songs That Mean The Most To Me