Another week has passed and here I am starting to panic about Christmas – it seems like I blinked and the last 3 months have shot past before I could open my eyes again!
From now on, you may notice these Life Lately posts are a little different, following some feedback I had that really got me thinking; specifically feedback saying these posts tend to focus solely on the positives. This was never a conscious decision but I think was borne of three things:
1) They’re my way of documenting life’s happenings, and it tends to be positives you take note of or photograph more than the negative.
2) I was brought up with a “there’s people worse off than you so don’t complain” mentality.
3) The loss of my sister has given me a fierce determination to be happy and live a life of positivity.
Whilst I pride myself on being open and honest on here, sharing the good, the bad and the downright ugly times with you (including admitting I was hugely in debt and finding out I may not be able to have children) I shared those things as I felt to do so could be of value; like maybe it could help somebody else out there who is going through the same thing. I’ve always thought to mention the day-to-day things that play on my mind would seem like I was whinging, and that I wasn’t grateful for the fact that, generally, my problems are minor.
However, the person who commented said they felt that from these Life Lately posts it seemed all was rosy in my world and I was living something of a perfect life. This was never my intention – there’s a huge hoo har online at the moment about bloggers showcasing a lifestyle that is unreal and far removed from what they are living – but I guess in my always-look-for-the-silver-lining mindset I inadvertently painted my life to be very different to how it is.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy, very happy. In fact I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I have a great family, a boyfriend who I love the bones of, amazing friends, cute little furry companions and a roof over my head, but plenty goes on behind the scenes that doesn’t make it onto this blog. I don’t talk about the time I spend each month with pen and paper in hand frantically working out my finances. I don’t talk about the worries I have for how a family rift is going to affect the future. I don’t talk about how helpless I feel that somebody I love is battling a mental health issue. I don’t mention these worries because I know there are people out there who are fighting far bigger battles and, for me, I feel like I should just get on with these things quietly and not bother other people.
But, I now see that perhaps I have been showing a vision of my world that isn’t quite right – letting you readers see what is happening, but only through a pair of rose-tinted glasses.
It was never my intention, but I can understand the comments I received and I wanted to set the record straight. My life is by no means perfect, but as it’s the only one I have I try to live it to the best of my ability and always with a smile on my face.
In future I will try to note the rough as well as the smooth; I won’t bang on about it because that’s just not my way, but I won’t block it out either. After all, this is my lifestyle blog and this is my life.
A fog descended over much of Essex and London – I always find it makes me think about the dark alleyways of Victorian London for some reason! Anyone else or is that just me?
Our first house-warming present, from our friends Sian and Dan. A little tin of handy bits and bobs, all of which relate to your first time living together. Such a unique little gift!
I was minding my own business scrolling through the Asda homewares page on their website when this happened – deliberate do we think? The day after I tweeted about this the order of the items on the page was changed unsurprisingly!
Sounds about right.
Walking out of the bathroom I looked down the stairs to be met with two pairs of very sinister looking eyes haha!
Another house-warming present, this time from Haydy and her other half. “The Cartham’s” is the ‘Brangelina’ name they’ve given us and dinosaurs are kind of a running joke between us, so this little gift was perfect!
I saw this photo of a baby giraffe online and instantly saved it for this blog post for no other reason than because it’s unbelievably cute! It’s crazy to think how big it will end up!
Ben and I went to a garden centre and they had a aviary – this cockatiel reminded me of a bird we had growing up called Izzy. He was so full of character; I really miss that little feathery fiend.
The only reason we went to the garden centre was to look at the Christmas decorations – it’s a bit of a festive jaunt to go to this particular one for many people in Essex as their displays are so good. We think we’re going to have a red and gold theme this year, but our tree will definitely not look as fancy as this!
We are currently watching our way through all the Harry Potter films – the furries took the opportunity to get just a tiny bit comfortable…
Have a great week everyone!