I currently live with housemates and although it’s been good and my living situation may well be changing soon, I’ve learnt a lot about my time sharing a house sharing a house and know it doesn’t always run smoothly.
Living in such close proximity to other people, whether they’re old friends or people you’ve recently met, is never easy. No matter how well you all get on, at some point or another, small conflicts will arise. This is entirely normal, even the best of friends would argue at some point if they lived together.
However, there are a few simple things that you can do to reduce the risk of arguments and make living together, easier:
Respect other people’s belongings
Even if you’re close, that doesn’t mean that you should use your housemate’s things without asking. Some people are fine with others borrowing their stuff, but not everyone is. Before thinking of using something of someone else’s, be it a frying pan or some washing powder, check with them first. It might take some time to get used to, but you will adjust to what your housemates do and don’t find acceptable.
Make a rota
One of the most common arguments in shared accommodation tends to be about one housemate failing to pull their weight. The best way to prevent these kinds of arguments is by having a rota in place. This should include everything, from the hoovering to emptying the bin. If these jobs are left to one person, that’s when the arguments will start. Make sure to help out around the house and pull your weight, and you and your housemates shouldn’t have any problems.
Have fun together
The key to making your time living with other people more enjoyable is spending time together having fun. Sometimes you can get so caught up in the stresses and worries of everyday life, that you forget to have a laugh. You and your housemates will all be a lot happier if you make the time to go out and have fun. Go for meals out. Head out for cocktails or a night at your favourite club. Plan a fun day out – go to the zoo, take a trip to the beach, see a show – there are lots of great shows on in Blackpool, for example, and across the rest of the country. Hold a house meeting and ask everyone to suggest one fun thing that you could all do together as a group.
Talk to each other
If something is upsetting you, don’t be afraid to tell your housemates about it. If you each commit to being open and honest about things that annoy you, you can prevent a lot of arguments from occurring. Keeping problems bottled up, such as when your housemate borrows your favourite bowl, will only lead to problems. Instead, take your housemate aside and explain that you don’t feel comfortable with them using your bowl. Explain that although there are some things they can borrow, your favourite bowl is not one of them.
Yes, living in a shared house often comes with arguments. But if you follow the tips above, you can make life a little less stressful.
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