There are two dates of the year I am guaranteed to have a blog post go live – 6th March and 26th August. The anniversary of my sister dying and her birthday. I don’t know why I feel the need to publish something on those days, perhaps because she isn’t here and I can’t speak to her directly, so writing something on here is the next best thing – shouting into the abyss and hoping she might hear.
This year Katy would have been 33. A fully-fledged adult, possibly married, maybe with children. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve wondered what she would be like if she was here today. I wonder what she would have looked like, what she would have worked as, whether her sense of humour would be the same as mine, and if she would be a worry-butt like myself and my sister or cool as a cucumber like my brother.
None of the questions I have in my mind will ever be answered, they’ll always be an unknown, her life being a story that was only ever written with a few chapters. But, from her short existence my family learnt a lot and on this date last year, to mark her 32nd birthday, I published a blog post about all the positives we have been able to take from the 923 days she walked this earth.
That blog post received such an incredible amount of feedback and a number of people told me it had helped them through their own dark days, so I thought this year I would share it again in the hope that if anybody out there is struggling with grief or loss of any kind, they might read it and see that there really are silver linings to be found, even on the blackest of clouds.
(Click the link below to read)
A Tribute To My Sister – Finding Positives In Loss
Happy Birthday Katy. I hope you’re being spoilt up there, whatever you’re doing today.