I’ve seen several other bloggers do this tag post and have really enjoyed reading each and every one of them.
When I look at the 11-years that have passed since I was 16-years old, so much has happened and the person I am now is unrecognisable from the person I was then.
Reading the posts of other bloggers, I realised that if I had the opportunity to go back and meet 16-year old Me, I would have so much to say, so I thought I’d write a post for this tag:
I know you’re going through a hard time right now and you feel completely out of your depth. I also know that no matter what I say to you, you will ignore it, just as you ignore everybody else around you that is looking out for you at the moment, but, there are things I need to tell you and things you need to know:
Don’t try being someone else just to fit in; be yourself. I know you don’t feel that being you is good enough, but, believe me, when you stop trying to be what you think everybody else wants you to be, you will find the world a better place; you’ll be truly happy and the people around you will love you for being different.
Spend more time at college and less time in the pub! I know it’s a cliche but your schooldays really are the best days of your life; enjoy every second of it – and don’t leave your coursework until the last minute!
Stick up for yourself. Don’t let people walk all over you and don’t let anyone (including boys/men) treat you like you’re worthless. You deserve respect and kindness as much as the next person. Demand it.
Oh, and while we’re on the subject of boys/men? They will tell you they love you; they don’t. Don’t invest so much of yourself in them and certainly don’t conform to what they tell you. But, most of all, don’t blame yourself when things don’t work out.
NEVER let any boy/man lay a finger on you. At the first sign of violence, get yourself out of that relationship and out of their life. Don’t make excuses for them, don’t be scared and don’t doubt yourself; just get yourself as far away from them as possible. You haven’t done anything wrong, it’s them that has the problem.
Don’t worry about not knowing what career path you want to follow. I’m 27 and still have no idea what I want to do. Just go with the flow and enjoy the journey.
Wear crop tops; you have a flat stomach. 11-years down the line you’ll be wishing you had that toned midrif again!
Don’t get credit cards. Don’t run up debts buying things just to keep up with your friends. You’ll end up in debt and those friends are just people-I-used-to-know now; they aren’t worth it.
When you go to the hairdressers for your re-perm and you think he’s using the wrong type of rollers, TELL HIM. Don’t keep your mouth shut for the sake of being polite. You’ll end up looking like an 80’s throwback poodle, you’ll have to chop your beautiful long hair off into a very short bob and it’ll take years to grow back.
Don’t rush into buying a house. I know you want to be a grown-up and you want to be a homeowner, but if you’re relationship isn’t stable, it’s not going to work out. Wait until the time is right.
In a few years, you’re going to see a car and fall head over heels in love with it. Have it thoroughly checked before you buy it; it will save you a lot of money.
Be nicer to your parents. I know you don’t want to hear this, but they really are always right. Trust their judgement, respect their wishes and don’t lie to them. If they don’t want you to do something, there’s a reason for that. If they don’t like one of your friends, there’s a reason for that too. They don’t say these things just for the sake of it. Trust them and trust their judgement.
Most of all, I want you to beat your self-esteem issues; I want you to love yourself like your friends and family do.
Oh, and as for never getting married and having children? Be careful what you wish for. You will fall in love one day and, believe it or not, one day you’re going to want children to be a part of your future.
Embrace life and make plans. Make time to relax, laugh until your stomach hurts and dance until you think your feet will catch fire. Life is hilarious and ridiculous, don’t take it too seriously.
What would you write to your 16-year old self? I’d love to know in the comments box below, or if you decide to do this tag post on your blog, please leave the link below and I’ll check it out!