My Week In Pictures



The calm before the storm – relaxing in the garden
the night before moving house.
This onion is SUCH a dude!
Bye bye little flat, I loved being able to call
you ‘home’.
Ah.  That’s quite a lot of unpacking.
I was worried the house move might stress the cats
out… but they seem ok to me!
I went running twice this weekend and survived!
This email made me think I was a millionare.  £2.80.
BBQ in the garden before we hit the town for drinks.
My outfit for a local pub crawl.
Chilling out the morning after the night before.
I loved this paragraph in the book I’m reading!
So true!
While everyone else was hungover in bed, I felt absolutely
fine!  Win!
A massive perk to the boyf having a hangover.
Sunday afternoon relaxation – roast dinner in the
oven, F1 on the TV and a blanket on the sofa.
Bliss!







LilliesandLove xx



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My Week In Pictures


I’m moving out of my flat on Thursday so the past week has pretty much been spent packing, packing, packing and, erm, a bit more packing, so I haven’t had a chance to take many photos.

To be honest, that’s probably for the best unless you want to see photos of my belongings crammed into cardboard boxes…?



Whilst I was packing, Devon decided to
have a little lay down.  On my back.

I made a goats cheese, red onion and
black olive quiche.  Nom.

My gorgeous Ltd Edition Sparkly Summer Skull.

Sunshine!
Sparkly nails.
The first credit card, paid off and cut up.  Yay!






LilliesandLove xx


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Vlog – Introducing My Cats and My New Necklace!


I wanted to test out how well my iPhone recorded and uploaded to YouTube so I recorded a short little vlog showing you my lovely Ltd Edition Sparkly Summer Skull necklace from Alyssa Smith, plus introducing you to my gorgeous little kitty cats (as you hear so much about them!)

Enjoy!

PS  I’ll try and make my videos more interesting in the future, I promise!



LilliesandLove xx


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Tick, Tock – Do You Hear Your Biological Clock?

 
 
Yesterday I was browsing Twitter when somebody posted a link to a website.  Being the nosey kind of person I am I decided to take a look and, although the website is simple and brief, the content of it was enough to hit me hard.
 
I’m not here to name and shame, so I won’t be linking to the website (I don’t think it’s necessary), but the message it conveyed made me rage inside.
 
Basically, a lady has created a website showing a countdown clock – years, months, days, hours, minutes and seconds.  It sounds harmless enough until you read the text that accompanies it.  The lady in question has created a website showing a countdown for her biological clock.
 
The write-up states that as time goes on the ticking of her ‘clock’ is getting louder and she feels she is failing, wondering if she will reach a point where she is no longer able to have her own children. She created this clock to face her fears and open a dialogue with other women about fertility.
 
I appreciate that having found out just 15-days ago that it’s unlikely I’ll be able to have children, this probably wasn’t the best time for me to discover this website.  In fact, it was probably the worst possible time.  However, as I read it, I felt the anger building up inside my chest and every part of me wanted to send her an email telling her that, yes, she is female, but having a child DOESN’T define her as a woman.
 
I appreciate, as the female of the species it is our ‘job’ to carry a child, keep it safe for 9-months and then pop it out, but it isn’t a necessity.  I mean, as a female of the species who probably can’t drop a sprog, does it make me a failure?  Am I less of a woman because my womb is broken?
 
WHY is it considered such a major flaw if a woman doesn’t have a child?
 
I’ve reached an age now (26) where my friend’s are all starting to have children.  I seem to be surrounded with growing bellies, morning sickness and stories about cravings. I’ve given more baby shower presents than I care to remember and my Facebook feed is a nearly constant stream of pictures of offspring and updates telling me their child has eaten/drunk/pooped/spoken/walked.
 
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking these people. I have two cats that I love and I load photos of them on Facebook – I’d say it’s pretty normal to want to show off something/someone you’re proud of (yeh, I’m a crazy cat lady).  But, what I do ask is, why is there such a pressure on women to have children?
 
I was brought up by my parent’s being told that everybody is different, you should never judge anybody on their life decisions and we’re all equal as human beings.  As a result of this, all my life I’ve believed that women have a choice whether or not to have children.  In fact, I know several women who CHOSE not to have children and have happy, fully functioning relationships and don’t feel they’re missing out.
 
There’s so much stigma around the choice of a woman to have a family.  Women who decide not to have children are often questioned about why they don’t want them, considered strange and told “You’ll change your mind one day”.  But, why would they change their mind?  You don’t ever see someone showing off their baby and being told “Ooh you’ll regret that!”  It’s rude, heartless and totally unnecessary, so what makes it ok when the situation is reversed?
 
Please don’t think I’m writing this post as a knee-jerk reaction to my diagnosis – I’ll admit, it’s been made worse because of that, but I’ve always felt the same way.  Some women have a career, some don’t.  Some women have children, some don’t.  By not having a child, does a woman somehow become useless?  Does their existence on the planet become less important because they aren’t going to be continuing the blood-line?  I certainly don’t think so.
 
I’d be interested to hear from others what their opinions are on this.
 
Do you think producing a variety of little’uns is important for a woman to do, or do you believe every woman has a choice?
Do you, or have you ever, felt pressure to have a child or have you made a life choice not to have them?
And, for my male readers, if you were dating someone and they told you they couldn’t/wouldn’t have children, would it make you reconsider your relationship?



 

LilliesandLovexx

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My Week in Pictures


Ok, so the title of this post is a little mis-leading!  With things having been as manic for me as they have the past few weeks, I haven’t got round to doing one of these posts for a while, so I thought I’d do a ‘catch up’ post today with some of my favourite pictures from the past few weeks.
The biggest thing that has happened to me in the past few weeks
is finding out I have a problem with my womb and may not be able
to have children. The diagnosis has shaken my world.
Read my blog post about it here.
Despite my diagnosis, I have a lot of things to be
grateful for in life and am trying to remember that!
I took my friend’s two children to the Sealife Centre,
this is a photo of them totally captivated by the sharks!
I went to my cousin’s 30th birthday party dressed as a Geisha girl
(it was fancy dress, I didn’t just wear this for the sake of it!)
One of my cats found a new place to hang out!
One of my cats looked a bit bad-ass so I had to take a picture!
A little surprise in Kris’ fridge for him to find when he got home.
I made a new desktop background for my office PC.
It was total fashion love at first sight when
I saw this top from George at Asda.
Red jeans and leopard print for a rainy BBQ in Clapham.
My nails for the rainy BBQ in Clapham – brightened up a grey day!




LilliesandLove xx
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