Greetings to all of you here on the lovely Penny’s blog. I am honoured to be a guest contributor for her Internet home and virtual family.
I’ve been asked to share a secret with you. But before I do I’d like to introduce myself. My name is Karen Geraghty and I am a Yankee Doodle Paddy. A what you say? That’s what I call myself because I am a dual American and Irish citizen. While I am enjoying living in London, my own blog was born out of a longing for my “yankee doodle” and “paddy” roots so I decided to bestow that name with its own URL.
I am a trained chef and baker, and also a cookery teacher. But the truth is that my purpose in life is to spread LOVE. And that is a subject I actually want to share on here today.
I once heard that in order to be a success at something you need to be an expert at it. Malcolm Gladwell spoke of this in his book Outliers. It is estimated that ten thousand hours spent honing a skill will lead to being an expert. Even bloggers can be experts at a particular talent, issue etc. Some may be experts at fashion, makeup or cooking. Some may be experts at overcoming debt or a debilitating illness. But when you become an expert in an area, people come to you with questions, seeking your guidance or maybe just for curiosity.
Well, I’ve become an expert at love. I have been sharing my love through my food for years and now as a blogger newbie I try my best to do the same in my little corner of the Internet. At 51 years old though I am late to the social media world I am making up for lost ground. But in the short span of time I have been involved I have met some amazing people like Penny.
Yet, it isn’t my profession, age or gender that people remember about me so much as my purpose in life, which as I said is to spread love. On my Snapchat stories, you’re bound to see hearts galore and hear talk of love along side some yummy cupcakes of course. I share quotes, books and thoughts on love and even demonstrate ways to spread the love. I’ve even hosted #lovefest competitions whereby people find hearts or love images in their world and snap them to me to win a prize. So while some have called me an expert on love I prefer to use the moniker LOVE Enthusiast. However, for the sake of this post I will use the term expert.
How do I claim to be an expert in love? Well I believe that our highest purpose in life comes from our deepest pain. And that is why I have spent most of my life researching and practicing the art of love. It is my response to the amount of pain, trauma and hate I have endured in my life. And so that is my mission, to share with others this life affirming reaction to the negative things that have happened to me.
To sum it up for you, love is a verb, an action word. And it is also another type of language, which can be foreign to some. But we can all acquire another language no matter our age or learning disability.
Love is actually a combination of 5 different languages according to Dr. Gary Chapman. The key is to figure out what language we speak. And to have successful relationships, it is important to know how to speak the love language of your partner. Here are the five types of love languages:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Why is it important to speak the language of your partner? Well if you love them, you want to be able to communicate with them. If for instance you are someone who speaks the language of gift giving and you bring home flowers everyday and souvenirs from business trips, yet your wife speaks another language she might not seem as though she is appreciative of your thoughtfulness. She may speak the language of quality time, and all she really wants is for you to sit with her on the couch in front of the fire without you playing on your mobile device. You love each other but feel totally misunderstood and this “lost in translation” can be very detrimental to a successful relationship!
Sometimes the notion of love can seem overwhelming with the world in its current state of affairs. But if you start by spreading love right where you stand, with the people immediate to you and those you come in contact with, I guarantee you will see a shift. Besides you feeling better, you will make someone else feel loved. Whether it is doing an act of service to help an elderly person carry his or her groceries, or paying for someone’s coffee in line behind you. Sadly many people have become numb to niceness and have become accustomed to cold and disconnected human interactions. But you have the power to change that by surprising someone with the warmth of a loving gesture. A smile, a complimentary word, or even a hug can make a huge difference. It works for me and is like a joy generator. I get asked everyday what is my secret for being so happy. Yet, my secret isn’t a secret at all. It is out there in the open for anyone to accept.
So I would encourage you to act with love! Let’s all start a LOVE-olution!
“Love is the force that transforms and improves the face of the world.”
Thank you Penny for this opportunity and I’m sending you all lots of LOVE!
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